Some of the best known and loved passages prophesying and heralding the birth of the Messiah, in a few languages and my South Indian voice.
Merry Christmas!
First of all, as someone who wasn’t raised with and has never owned a pet, every meme about cats is true. They are the star of their own show, and you’re the novice actor with a bit part. They will snuggle when they are ready to, will play when they feel like it, and will emerge out of their safe space on their time. They are immune to the sound of your voice, will ignore your pleas, and unless allured by food, are the original social distancers.
So, from confidently asserting that I was fine with pets, as long as it was others’, that I had no problem adoring their quirks, as long as they were at arm’s length, to now whispering “I love you, Lennie” in the midst of a hectic day, it is a tale of an about-turn in the face of first-hand experience.
Lennie, although, is an exhibit among cats. Temperamentally mild, she mewls sparingly and invites play by gently bouncing off your feet as you walk by. In the early days after my sister brought her over for weekend visits, I did try, somewhat, to be immune to her liquid brown gaze narrowing as she struggled to keep her eyes open, her dorrito-shaped face sculpting into a triangle if you lifted it for a kiss, and her soft pink paws walking pitter-patter over you as a stopover on her destination.
Three Lennie-inspired reflections:
My sister insists that Lennie’s soul is eternal, and that the redemption of all creation one day means she will go ahead of her and stay ready to respond to her voice, in heaven as on earth. I don’t know — “Who knows if the human spirit rises upward and if the spirit of the animal goes down into the earth?” (Ecclesiastes 3:12). While pondering on Lennie’s trajectory including her slow deterioration and eventual death is dreary, it does spur a sense of urgency. In a treatise, Thomas Watson wrote, “He who often meditates of death — will make the best preparation for it.”
2. Uncertainty:
Lennie is smothered with affection, squeezed with cuddles and is the theme of many impromptu songs. Yet, going by her fright at the sound of a doorbell, her commitment to secluded corners, and her forlorn wailing at the crinkle of a can of tuna, one wonders if she thinks she’s one misstep or meal away from death’s door. Her memory clock resets each day, not taking the comforts of yesterday for granted.
For a to-do lister, detailed scheduler, and timeline-bound goal creator, grappling with uncertainty is discomfiting.
3. Curiosity:
It’s endearing when Lennie’s head turns, her ears tilt, and her eyes fixate on a squirrel, chirp, or a twig. One of my favorite ways of learning is to ask questions of people from all walks of life — in that sense, I’ve never met a stranger. Being curious is a valuable trait that supports the injunction found in Old Testament law, “then you must inquire, probe and investigate it thoroughly”. And Proverbs states, “The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him.” In our present state of the world with fixed ideological priors overruling any appeal to withhold judgment, hear all parties out, and be willing to change one’s mind when presented with evidence, I want to be like Lennie: ever-learning, ever-teachable, and ever capable of being influenced.
Lastly, I can imagine the generosity, wonder, and compassion, a pet would arouse in a growing child. So, future hub, if you think the kids would benefit from a pet in the home, I wouldn’t object. We’d have a role model in Lennie.
In an interview, Kellyanne Conway, a successful political campaign manager, frequently in the eye of relentless storms, posed this heart-breaking question, “Would you rather be right or be loved?” She was commenting on the extreme polarization within American politics where lifelong friendships and even marriages, including her own were being torn asunder by the blood-drawing sword of blind ideology.
While seemingly on unrelated subjects, an imperceptible thread runs through the two books I recommend below. In times antiquated or modern, the voids in our hearts demand to be filled. Where previously, those voids were occupied by faith, family, and faithfulness, we now miserably fill those with confused replacements while ardently denying their very existence.
WOKE, INC. Inside corporate America's social justice scam, Vivek Ramaswamy
I first came across Vivek's contrarian thinking (by present standards) in a business news segment where he railed against stakeholder capitalism. As one of the few CEOs vocal about the disproportionate pressures exerted by the woke minority on companies' policies and culture, his voice was a clarion call in a landscape of cowering homogeneity. His is a relatable story, as a second generation Indian immigrant to the US, from Wadakkancherry, a town in Kerala, the state of my ancestors.
He narrates his experience working at Goldman Sachs, the most elite financial institution in America, where a hallmark event was 'Service Day'. Supposed to be a full-day spent serving the community, few of his colleagues seemed interested in planting trees at a park in Harlem. The group head showed up an hour late in a slim-fit suit and Gucci boots, "let's take some pictures and get out of here". In 30 minutes, they were at a bar where Vivek's colleague justified their flippancy by laying out the Goldman Rule: "He who has the gold makes the rule".
Vivek is an outspoken critic of the Environmental, Social, Governance (ESG) rules, testifying at a congressional hearing about the dangers of distorted capital allocation by investors, in favour of a social justice agenda. He describes the emergence of the woke-industrial complex, an unholy coupling between government and big business, that allows this hybrid model to get away with what neither could, on their own. The pretence of not caring about profit or power has worked out very well for these corporations, by giving them precisely more of each.
The most egregious example of wilful corporate negligence was by one of the world's largest consumer behemoths, Unilever. In a Kenyan tea-plantation owned by Unilever, while offering top-notch security to their well-heeled executives, they left their economically disadvantaged, local, female employees unguarded from 'brutal and foreseeable attacks'. After violent incidents in which several women were killed and raped by local thugs, Unilever compounded its cruelty by refusing liability or making restitution for their wrongdoing. Of course, none of this dampened their worldwide marketing blitzkrieg for the 'empowerment of women tea plantation workers'. Meanwhile, they were fighting the just demands of the local women they mistreated tangibly, while effusively pretending to care for ethereal women globally.
As an ardent believer in service to one's nation, I've held that governments should encourage their youth to a stint in public office and bureaucracy. Not only would it be an opportunity to tackle seemingly intractable problems with the optimism of youth, but would also inculcate a sense of duty, preservation of a national identity, and the belief of one's rise being inextricably linked to the nation's.
The author recommends civil service by conscription. I disagree with the desire to make service mandatory, since non-voluntary actions tend to foster resentment and evasion.
One of the most poignant critiques in the book is on woke consumerism. Signalling virtue through the goods we buy is a vacuous attempt to fill the sense of purpose previously driven by religious impulses. As the author says, in the new American search for identity to give our lives meaning, we make the ordinary sacred. To which I must add its corollary - and make the sacred ordinary.
OUT OF THE DEPTHS, the autobiography of John Newton
In stark contrast to Millenial and Gen Z's convictions in their own goodness, is the repentant slave trader who never lost awareness of God's condescension to Him. He sails on many voyages to Africa, transporting slaves for trade, as a captain of those ships. Squandering many years of his prime in avarice, rebellion, and mistreatment of his fellow men, he surrenders finally and helplessly, to his need to be saved from himself.
John Newton goes on to write many timeless hymns, including the unfading, Amazing Grace. Along with William Cowper, the prolific and depressive poet, he published a collection of hymns, including the evocative 'God moves in a mysterious way', a profound gift through the centuries. His friendship offered a respite from Cowper's relentless despair.
'Out of the depths' is John Newton's autobiography, written as a reflection of God's mercies toward the most hardened of hearts; ever present through acute dangers, rampant backsliding, moral failings, and protracted grief. In our 'cancel first, ask questions later', culture, Newton's life story is a reminder that none of us can set ourselves up as a higher standard of love, justice, and compassion, than the God through whom we have the conception of those ideas in the first place.
He becomes a prominent abolitionist, preaching against the evils of slavery, as a pastor in London, and a confidant of William Wilberforce. Wilberforce, was an evangelical Member of the British Parliament who strove to put an end to slavery. After campaigning for 9 years to abolish the slave trade and finding it fruitless, he considered retirement from public life.
Newton wrote him a powerful letter. He believed that God had placed Wilberforce to serve as a witness to Him. "The example, and even the presence of a consistent character may have a powerful, though unobserved, effect upon others. You are not only a representative of Yorkshire. You have the far greater honour of being a Representative for the Lord, in a place where many know Him not, and an opportunity of showing them what are the genuine fruits of that religion which you are known to profess".
Encouraged, Wilberforce continued his efforts in Parliament, looking to the Bible for direction in all of life, not aiming to separate his faith from politics. Wilberforce recognized that without a spiritual base, those who attempt social reform would not only flaw in their efforts, but in the end, do harm.
"My judgment..rests altogether on the Word of God. A man who acts from the principles I profess, reflects that He is to give an account of his political conduct at the judgment seat of Christ". A sobering thought, which I hope stays ingrained in my mind when tempted to disengage loftily by dismissing my responsibility to think and act righteously in the so-called culture wars.
You held my hand and walked me through the woods
told me stories by the candlelight
Your eyes twinkling as you read stories of yore
I sat in rapt attention, lost in the sound of your voice.
The meals we shared, all the times we laughed
For every time I held your hand, for every time I shared your joy;
I can't believe I won't see you again
I keep holding onto your hand, your fingers in mine
and time can't take that away.
I had my heart set on happiness
Now, a fist clenching my insides
sinks down my vitals,
and I can hardly breathe
My heavy heart wears me down,
and I'm not alright.
His ways I don't understand,
and I don't even try
It is His to give and His to take away
and I can only look back.
I'll just rest my head at His heart,
lay my hurt on His shoulder
I'll just be held in His arms,
entwine my fingers with His,
and live under the shadow of His wings.
-In memory of my beautiful cousin, Bindu John, whose voice still rings in my ears.
By now, you've heard the Will Smith slap loud and clear in your living room and replayed to stirring emotional effect.
It might be odd to sympathize with the aggressor here, when he is so clearly in the wrong. A misguided stream of support in the aftermath lauded him for defending his wife's honour. A man so relinquished of self-control is weak and defeated, hidden beneath the picture - perfect veneer.
I say this as a Will Smith fan - I can rap along to the fresh prince of Bel-Air (just say the word), need no background to watch one of his movies (plot and storyline not mandatory) - and until revelations of his wrecked personal life, thought of him as a loving husband and father, stellar as a person, and exemplary as a professional. A secular testament to the virtues of plain hard work, grounded values, rooted upbringing, and integrity - rising up through access to 'common grace'.
Yet, my heart went out to this man. A desperately broken, wounded, and lonely man. Betrayed, tormented, not knowing which way to turn. No consolation in his accolades, no relief in entertainment, no rest in his thoughts.
To a greater or lesser extent, we all know this pain, or will know it soon. I did.
The remedy offered by the world can range from a therapy-laced exploration of the dark recesses of the mind, or a 'revenge is a dish best served cold' battlecry, or a shrinking from people, profession, and pursuit.
We are either held back by the pain of hurtful deeds said and done to us, or are driven in a quest to prove those wrong; our hearts a frothing of rage and tremors.
The blessing of a still, calm heart, without the whirling turbulence of thoughts characteristic of the aching heart, cannot be overstated.
If you thought this bleak narrative was building up to a solution, I have none. Except to begin with recognizing that because modern culture elevates how we feel as of greater value above everything and everyone else, it can be difficult to surface from those immersive waters.
With that recognition, what do you do next? This is hard and non-intuitive - but might we stop chasing happiness as the ultimate goal? That means acknowledging that life may not go your way, your goals may not be met, your timelines never achieved, and your feelings never adequately protected.
What if ambition looked like a life of quiet pursuit of spiritual disciplines, inward resilience through the means of sustenance established by God, and a determination to not strive without consulting God in the smallest affairs of life?
I'm not a great example, but afflictions have kept me humble. As much as I want the winter to end and walk into sunshine, my need keeps me clinging to God.
If not God, who. If not to Him, where.